The key to making your dreams come true is actually BELIEVING that you can do it. In Part I & II I covered the importance of believing your dream is possible and a smart way of making it happen. Today I am going to delve even deeper in how it is absolutely possible to make that dream that is dwelling in your heart come true!
Small Doable Steps
If you follow this site, you know I believe in the power of Baby Steps and breaking your goals down into small bite size steps that are easy to achieve. When you do this, you hit more milestones, which raises your sense of achievement, which in turn gives you more energy and confidence to continue on your path to your Destiny. When you’re looking at your Big Goal it can be intimidating and no doubt feel impossible to achieve, but by working backwards and breaking your goal down into tasks you can accomplish daily, you will see just how Possible it is to realize your Dream.
The Three R’s
As we know, while the destination is important, it’s the journey that we need to enjoy. That is why it is okay to make a plan and then change it. An affective way to do this is to incorporate a process I call the Three “R” Review.
Revisit, Revamp and Recharge
Revisit – Once your plan is in place revisit it from time to time. Maybe you look back every month, every 3 months or every year. It doesn’t matter, what is important that you continue to look back over the plan you have in place to evaluate it’s effectiveness. Is what you originally came up with still serving you or can you make some improvements? When you decide there are certain things about your plan that you can ameliorate you move onto the next “R”.
Revamp- Once you identify the action items or timeframes that need to be improved, you can go in and revamp the original plan. Make your necessary small or big changes that will better serve you on your journey to your Destiny. After you do that you are ready to move onto the next “R”.
Recharge – This is the step where you go back into action on your new and improved plan. You will have even more energy and vigor because you are getting closer to your goal, you will be going about it an a more effective and efficient way and you will know without a doubt that you are beginning to Walk in Your Destiny.
I sincerely hope that after reading this you are looking at your situation in a new light.
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Have you ever found yourself frustrated because no matter how much you want to change an aspect of your life you just can’t? Do you find yourself complaining to your peeps about it and nothing gets better? Do you take inspired action hoping to see a difference, only to find that you self-sabotage yourself into defeat?
If you can answer yes to some or ALL of those things then this is the series for you. If you’ve missed Part 1 & Part 2 be sure to catch up so you’re ready for today, the 3rd and final part of the series.
So in the previous post I discussed that you could do two things:
1) Increase the pain of the current situation.
2) Decrease the fear of the desired situation.
We already talked about how you can increase the pain of the current situation. It can feel uncomfortable, but it’s worth it. I’m proud of you all who did the work and worked through it.
Now, for the flip side of the coin…
How do you Decrease the Fear of a Situation?
To me this side of the equation is a lot more fun. The majority of us have a fear of the Unknown which can render us paralyzed in the face of change. You know you’re in a situation that could use some improvements, but if you don’t know the outcome that’s enough to make you endure discomfort for decades or even a lifetime.
Here are some surefire ways on how to kick Fear in the butt once and for all!
Now, usually on a riveting movie or TV show, the moment a character asks this all hell breaks loose. I would also agree that if you dwell on worse case scenarios and “what ifs” the Universe will happily serve those up, so don’t get stuck at this stage.
However, used correctly this exercise will help you go from a place of Fearing the Unknown, to Acceptance.
When you ask yourself “What is the worst that can happen?” visualized and write down EXACTLY what you are afraid of and what that looks like. If you think you’ll end up homeless write that down, what does that look like? What does that feel like? Keep going. So you’re homeless then what? What does that look like? How does that feel? What would you do in that situation? Keep going and going deeper in the situation, describing what it would look like, how you would feel and then what you would do to resolve it.
What you will find is:
a) You are resilient and smart and can figure a lot out on your own. You have resources at your disposal more options than you make think.
b) The situation maybe isn’t as bad as you though it is. When you give it a face, a name, and think of everything that can be thrown at you and your realize that you can respond to all of those elements you tend to feel more comfortable to conquer your fears and go for it and see what happens.
“Leap, and the net will appear” – John Burroughs
c) Once you can accept the Worse Case Scenario you created you can then begin working on ways to improve upon that situation so that you are prepared, literally, for the worst.
I always gain perspective by reviewing old journals. I can remember every situation like it was yesterday. In pretty much Every circumstance I’m worried about something, things work out just fine. When we are in the midst of the storm it seems we will never get out, but we always do don’t we? The harder and more challenging the situation the stronger we emerge on the other side too, right? Sometimes it’s enough to ask yourself, “Have I been in a tough situation before? Did I think it was the end of the world then? Didn’t I make it out though? So don’t I believe in myself and in my Higher Power that I will be Delivered out of this situation too?”. By gaining some Perspective one is able to Empower themselves into Action and not stay frozen with Fear.
Get the facts. Make informed decisions. Don’t go in blind. I am all about researching a situation. With the World Wide Web at our disposal, we are able to find out who did it before we did. Get the facts on whatever crazy whim we may have and we can even find a community of supporters who can give us advice and cheer us on as we make our bold moves. Education is an easy way to take yourself from Fear of the Big Unknown to Knowledgeable.
Speaking of a community. Getting a group together is a great way to decrease fear. Whether you are going after a goal with a group of people or you simply notify your community of what you are attempting to do, you gain immediate support. Whether your group is made up of all cheerleaders or naysayers they provide something that will help push you along. Accountability. Once you put it out there, you are now held accountable and your community will let you know too. Sometimes going public with our ideas is enough to empower us to attempt the difficult and achieve the impossible!
What are ways to “Decrease the appearance of Fear” to help you conquer the Fear of the Unknown? Leave a comment and let me know your thoughts!
There’s a way for you to stop the complaining that is occurring in your life, plus defeat self-sabotage and the story I sharedmy last post has everything to do with that. If you haven’t read it be sure to check it out now.
When we parted ways on Monday we were talking about the two different ways you can elicit change within yourself.
Those two ways were:
1) Increase the pain of the current situation.
2) Decrease the fear of the desired situation.
How do you increase the pain of a situation?
As human beings we are extremely adept at accepting what is, even if we are not happy. We lie to ourselves, downplay our misery and commiserate with friends. All of this enables us to stay on our nail, moaning and groaning but never taking action to just get off of it. The best way to increase the pain of a situation is to get HONEST with yourself.
Am I truly happy right now?
Will I be happy with my life if I’m in the same place this time next year?
Will I be pleased with my life if I’m in the same position 5 years from now?
10 years from now? 20 years from now?
What will I be losing by NOT making the necessary changes in my life?
What part of my happiness am I sacrificing staying on this track in life?
What’s more painful, making mistakes or living a life of regret?
2 Things will happen when you are really and truly Honest with yourself.
1) You will realized that you are really not as miserable as you were making your life out to be. Sure you don’t like your boss, but really that’s it. You actually love your job, you love your life situation and you were just being dramatic. If that’s the case, Stop complaining and count your blessings. Figure out ways to improve on the few things that are a thorn in your side and remove them. Things aren’t as bad as you were making them out to be. Start focusing on the good instead and improve the few negative annoyances you are experiencing.
2) The other thing that can happen is you realize you are way more miserable than you even realized. More than that, you will be highly disappointed in your life outcome if you continue down the path you’re on. This is good news too, because now you’re clear on where you are in your life and this puts you in a position of power. You now have the power to decide the course of your life and design it exactly how you want it to go. Oh, and don’t forgot to count your blessings in this situation either!
Write down your responses to the questions above.
Share in the comments any insights you gained on where you’d be in the future if you continued on the path you’re on now.
What are other ways you could “increase pain” in your circumstance, to help spring you into action?
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